Can’t be special and polyamorous
Polyamory is the most radical form of non-monogamy. Books supporting non-monogamous journeys may leave you puzzled why you struggle in your relationships. You might be trying to be
Post pandemic poly problems
I specialize in non-monogamous relationships. One thing has popped up repeatedly in the last few months, is what I call post pandemic poly problems. It goes something like this: Th
Couples workshop online: Love like a pro
This workshop was developed in-person pre-pandemic but has since moved online. For a small contribution, you and your partner get to explore some of the basics of sex and relations
Benefits of online couples counseling
Over the last years, online counseling has become more popular and I’m often asked why people would choose online over in-person counseling. Here are ten of the more popular
Why I do English couples counseling in Berlin
Much of our lives is structured through cultural efforts and accomplishments, we're doing our best to be civil, loving and welcoming, and to contribute. beneath it all pulls a tide
Sex as… communication (C.J. Ahlers) auf Deutsch
Zentrale These des Buches ist ein Verständnis von Sex als Kommunikation mit der elementaren Botschaft des Angenommen-Seins: Das ist es, wonach wir uns sehnen, dass uns jemand will
Rules of kink 1: Consent
Consent: Kink, porn and #metoo There are two established rule sets in BDSM and kink: Safe, sane and consensual (SSC) kink and risk-aware consensual kink (RACK). The more recent RAC
Thirty years since Schnarch’s passionate marriage!
The ability to self-soothe is crucial for functioning relationships. It’s been over thirty years since “Passionate Marriage” made David Schnarch one of the most popular se
How to find the right therapist
You would think it’s easy to find articles on how to find the right therapist but it really isn’t. Most articles seem to be written by therapists promoting their profes
Sex as… space (introducing Esther Perel)
Is sex something we do or is it a space we enter? I listened to Esther Perel posing that question the other day in her million-viewer-ted talk where she discusses infidelity and th